How to calm your child in public

Eyes starting to well up, face going red, fists clenched – yep it’s tantrum time. Sometimes the warning signs are there, other times they can strike when you least expect it. And when it happens in a crowded supermarket, restaurant or anywhere else that all eyes are on you and your screaming child, there’s nothing you want more than to make it stop and make it stop quickly. Many of our members are mothers and have dealt with a tantrum or two over time, so what better ladies to ask for advice on how to diffuse the situation:
“I would walk away and leave them there (obviously keeping them in view). The less attention you give them while they are screaming or throwing themselves on the floor the better. They will learn that this type of behavior doesn’t get them anywhere. If they’re screaming because they want something that you’ve said ‘no’ to, don’t give in. Stick to your guns and continue to say ‘no’.” –imalittleteapot
“I started cultivating check out people. Check out people or people in lines can actually be a blessing some days. It’s as easy as someone poking their tongue out or making a silly face some days.” –Stresseduser
“I remember a few times I left the ‘public’ place and just went home if my child was heading in that unhappy direction. There was no point in struggling against something like that. Home is a much more relaxing a place to deal with bad moods – after all there was a cot there!” –softness
“My kids knew that after we had done the weekly shopping, we could enjoy sitting in the food court with a donut and a drink. Misbehave and the offer was null and void. Just a simple reminder was usually enough to make them behave. But there were a few occasions where we didn’t get our treat. Not too many thankfully.” –Rose_P
“I found tiredness was the main cause of kids throwing tantrums. My advice would be if you’re going to be going out shopping, time it for post nap, or the morning just after breakfast when they aren’t getting tired, cranky and irritable.” –Linda_Vesinger
“What I do is try to stay calm and I just stop what I’m doing and talk to my child in a calm quiet and firm voice. This works for me. While bribing the child is tempting and works faster, I do feel it just gives them a reason to throw a tantrum the next time round.” –Michelle240
“Mine is very independent so I just have to threaten to go get the stroller out of the car or that I’ll carry her and she stops the tantrum straight away. (she hates anything that makes her a ‘baby’ in her eyes lol)” –bumblebee75
How do you diffuse a tantrum while in public? What’s your best trick for calming your child?
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Try to minimise any issues by making sure my boys aren't overtired or hungry can often help. I also follow through on everything, ie if you behave at the shops, when we get home we'll go to the park etc. If they misbehave, no park
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Good advice. No empty threats.
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i dont give in and leave if need be
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Still had no chance to encounter a child throwing tantrums luckily. And my niece is such a great kid! With her never any issues
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thanks to online shopping! Although we do go the shops every now and then, make it short and sweet
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There are some great techniques to use. It can be hard, but with the right support and advice just like given here, the child and parent can have a much better outcome.
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Oh and how did I deal with it? I told her we were leaving and she quickly jumped into the water!
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My 11 year old actually had a tantrum on the beach yesterday!! Can you believe it? 11!
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oh the crazy times I go out with my twin bubs and their toddler brother - I need these tips and then some! good collection
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I'm not a mum but I do feel for mums when I see them out shopping or somewhere in public with a little toddler having a melt-down .... must be very difficult!
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I've not really had to deal with Tantrum so much, but the constant whining is just as bad!
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Great tips here for when I have my own kids.
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I tried to avoid taking my girls grocery shopping, instead I had my husband do something special with the girls and used to call this time Daddy/ Daughter time whilst I went grocery shopping. I would always bring them home a treat from the supermarket, and made a game of putting the groceries away. Some battles you just cant win.
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this is such an amazing list
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My Mum and I used to take my 2 nieces shopping with us sometimes. We had the luxury of making sure we bought their favourite treat when they weren't with us. Then if one of the asked (there was a good chance the younger one would "spit the dummy") when we said "No" we could honestly say they had to wait until we got home. If she didn't behave after that she got given less than usual. She soon learnt not to argue about it.
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I take my hat off to people who have kids - I just couldn't deal with it!!
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My niece has three children under the age of five, I have copied this article and passed it onto her, it will come in very useful.
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I don't have any kids but I remember my mom handling our temper tantrums by talking to us calmly and putting us in time out if we didn't listen.
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I still think this little boy is ultra cute!
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Thank you for your interesting and often useful articles. I find though that each parent or grandparent has to trial themselves what works best for them. A calm voice won't always work as they then sometimes throw an even bigger tantrum. I can't really say one thing worked best but I'm grateful I survived the stage and now have the most well behaved children on the planet - most of the time :)
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dfinitely not giving them the attention they want helps
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I have two boys and my toddler who is nearly 3 is the most active little boy who can have massive tantrums that can go on for nearly 20 to 30 minutes. Both my husband and I are consistently quite firm with his boundaries and it doesn't prevent them I am afraid. It is the little individuals personality and determination coming through. We of course recognise the signs to try minimise them but at times they can't be helped. We have had some in public and appreciate the knowing faces/smiles from other parents. I feel at times other people especially elderly or without children should be mindful that a preschool child behaving badly is very different to a school child who obviously has some understanding of good and bad behaviour. A preschool child having a tantrum is frustration due to their lack of understanding their feelings and not a reflection of your parenting. It does seen you bonkers some days that's for sure!
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